formula milk, it does matters..

Rynus has turned one a few weeks back and the good news to us is, he can move on to Step/Stage 3 formula officially! Experienced parents understand that in order to encourage total breastfeeding, infant formula (1 to 6 months) is extremely expensive, and after 6 months, babies can take Step/Stage 2 formula which is slightly cheaper, and from 12 months onwards, till 36 months, they can be on Step/Stage 3 formula which is usually around 10 dollars cheaper than the Step/Stage 2 formula.

But the bad news is, within 2 weeks, we have spend almost 200 dollars on these:

As expected, Rynus is not taking his Dumex Mamil Gold Step 3 formula well. Why I said "expected"? First of all, Mummy Chan has this lactose intolerance problem and that's why I seldom drink milk. Then, his brother, Renzo had a tough time taking this same formula 3 years back. Both of them started with the Dumex infant formula, and moved on to Step 2 formula at 6 months, but Renzo was vomiting badly like a merlion when he started Step 3 around one year old. TCM doctor advised us to switch him to soy based formula, as he could potentially have problem digesting lactose, which is found in Dumex Step 3 formula as a form of added sugar. In fact it's common to find lactose in almost all brands of formulas, just that at that time, we were not sure about the root cause and resorted to change of milk powder in the end. We even informed childcare teachers not to give Renzo fresh milk for 2 years since we were afraid he is allergic to cow's protein. But we switched him from Soy based formula to GainIQ Stage 3 when he was about 18 months old, and since then he was all good. Now I think back, lactose could be found in GainIQ Stage 3 also, but maybe we dragged a little longer to switch him from Soy formula to GainIQ Stage 3, and during the period he's on Soy formula, somehow his digestive system improved and was able to take lactose since then.

So for Rynus, the moment I noticed that he was drinking extremely slow, vomiting occasionally and having loose stool when he's on Dumex Step 3, I made the call to start him on GainIQ Stage 3 immediately. And then, I didn't realize he's having problem with GainIQ till about 2 weeks later, when he has formed a routine to wake up for milk at 2am, then wake up crying at 3am, 4am, and wake up for milk again at 5am. Although he's not able to sleep through yet, his usual routine is to sleep before 930pm, have one feed at 330 to 430am, and sleep for another 1 or 2 hours at least from there. So I talked to my helper, her feedback is that since I switch him to GainIQ, Rynus has been more active during the day and refuses to take his nap most of the time.

Well I have heard feedback from some mummies that GainIQ is sweeter, and more heaty, and some kids (especially boys) get hyper active with this brand. Please do not quote me on this as I am not an expert, and I am speaking based on my own experience here. I do not know the exact impact of GainIQ on Renzo. He didn't sleep much during the day since he was a baby, so I can't say GainIQ made him more active. He fell sick a bit more often after taking GainIQ and grandparents usually relate that to heaty food he took, but he started preschool around that same period and it's so common for kids to fall sick easily. He had a bit of bad temper and threw tantrums often but I rather believe that's due to his Terrible Twos.

But looking at the reaction from Rynus, I have to believe that his behavior, to certain extend, has something to do with the formula he took. Because last night when I finally switched him back to Dumex Step 2, he slept soundly from 915pm to 4am this morning.

For the time being, I've decided to let him stick to Dumex Step 2 instead since the kind customer care representative from Dumex has advised me that some babies take longer time to gradually move on to Step 3. Although he needs s little more time to readjust again, well frequent change of formula definitely made him exhausted, it's so good to see his bright smile again this morning when he woke up!!

Disclaimer: I am not comparing formula milk here, I just want to record down the fact about certain formula brands which my boys couldn't take well.

the sullen-looking Rynus

Rynus has this interesting character/habit which we discovered since he was about 6-7 months old, that he seems to understand people's (or rather say our) instructions/feelings very well, and he reacts promptly to that.

A good example is, on many occasions, when he attempts to reach out on Daddy's computer table from his cot, and snatches Daddy's cellphone, once we shout, "No Rynus, no!!", immediately, he will pause, for many seconds, looks into our eyes, and slowly pulls his hand back without touching Daddy's phonef, but at the same time, gives us a super pathetic look as if he's done something extremely bad or wrong.

Recently, his reaction becomes even "cuter" when he's not able to get what he wants. If I say "No" softly to him, he leans his head on my chest immediately and peeps at me with an innocent look, as if he's checking on my permission before making another attempt. But if I say "No" firmly with a stare, he often juts his lower lip out in a pout, gives an aggrieved look with a big frown, and then, bursts into tears and whine.

How to be angry with this little cutie pie? I can't imagine how would he react if I were to scold him one day, or rather, how shall I react then?!!!