Rynus "mei mei"??

When Renzo was much younger, many strangers asked me if he is a girl, probably because he has rather fair complexion and soft hair. My mother in law's neighbor who's been staying next to us for a year plus, congratulated us for having one boy and one girl (好) in the family after I delivered Rynus, because he thought Renzo is a girl despite seeing and speaking to him almost everyday.

For Rynus, we have even more such encounters and especially after we moved into our new place recently, and met many new friends around our neighborhood, we've been asked countless times about whether Rynus is a boy, or a girl. Obviously, Rynus has much fairer skin, softer hair than Renzo, and, bigger eyes for sure. 

I met a couple at the pool side one day, while bringing Renzo and Rynus for a walk, the uncle spoke to me in Chinese: "You have one GIRL and one BOY?", he then turned to Renzo and asked "You are the Jiejie(elder sister)?", I responded immediately, "Nope uncle, he's the Korkor (elder BROTHER)!", the uncle looked confused, then he smiled at Rynus and said, "Sorry sorry, uncle was wrong, you are the baby GIRL!!"..
 
Just a few days later, when my mother brought Rynus down to the playground, an old aunty introduced herself and her 17 months old grandchild to my mother. My mother said to Rynus, "Baby, say hello Korkor..", the aunty corrected her, "Nope, this is my granddaughter!". My mother felt embarrassed and kept Rynus busy at the slide for the rest of the time there. Till she decided to bring Rynus home, the old aunty walked over and said to her granddaughter, "say bye bye Meimei (younger sister)!!".. Now this time, guess who's feeling even more embarrassed?!

I know Daddy Chan will be very upset to see this, but I promise, I won't play with their hair again and I will never dress them up like dolls, never ever!!

Being the Second Child of the Family

Having a loving brother is never a bad thing. Whenever I look at these two play together and roll around the bed in unison, I think back at the times when Renzo was the only child and how lonely and solitary his life must have been before Rynus came along. Sure, Renzo had Mummy Chan and myself around him, but who better to understand oneself than a sibling who is just a few years apart.

I sit here by the edge of their bed and Rynus crawls over to the curtains and attempts to conceal himself behind it. As an adult, I am amused at the 1-year-old's attempt, and finds it funny because he didn't realise he had only covered his torso, while leaving his stubby little baby legs in plain view (good attempt still...haha). But the very same action triggered very different response from Renzo. He saw it as something wonderful, and immediately mimicked it with the other piece of the curtain, and instantly, we had two giggly kids covering and revealing themselves, flailing the curtain around as if the curtains were the wings of an intoxicated pigeon. I can only imagine how proud Rynus must have been to know his actions led on Renzo to do the same and it must have bolstered Rynus' self-confidence by a bit too.

Being the second child of the family, I know Rynus is disadvantaged from birth. Renzo had dedicated attention and funds when he was the only child for the first 3 years of his life, whereas Rynus will never know how it is like to have that sort of love and fundings (3 boxes full of Renzo's Thomas & Friends trains...). As most parents will say "We love them equally"... yeah.. and we know the equal half of the whole loving heart is 50%. It maybe that because I'm also the second child in the family myself, subconsciously I tend to be more biased toward Rynus, being more tolerant and understanding (at least that is what i gathered from my conversations with Mummy Chan, my sis-in-law and my mum... =/ )

Well, in any case, Rynus IS a cuter, more adorable baby even when compared to Renzo when he was at this age... then again, it might be my subconscious mind drawing at that conclusion... haha... guess we'll have to wait till Rynus turns into the little terrible-two monster to see if it'll change my perception of things...

Rynus Di Di is just as sweet~~

Most of our friends who have seen the boys often, would agree with me that Renzo is a very sweet brother, his tolerable limit is amazingly high when it comes to his little brother, and many have witnessed how Rynus bullied Renzo by pulling his hair, poking his mouth and squeezing his cheeks, while Renzo stayed calm and gave the occasional unhappy frowns without making a single complaint. Although they fight for toys everyday, they can play together in peace and harmony most of the time.

Rynus is often curious about what Renzo is doing. Besides trying to mimic his actions and sounds, every sudden expression from Renzo could be a laughing trigger that makes Rynus giggle out loud. Not to forget this cheeky kor kor is extremely funny and dramatic! So the room is often filled with laughter from the two boys. 

They can be very sweet to each other of course. I've seen countless times when Renzo crept into the cot and kissed his little brother while Rynus was sleeping like a log. When Rynus cries, Renzo grabs his milk bottle and stuffs into his mouth immediately, or passes him his #2 favorite remote control if we refuse to give Rynus his #1 favorite handphone to play. But last Saturday, we caught Rynus wobbly walking to Renzo, and trying to cheer him up by shaking his pajamas right in front of him, since Renzo was upset from being disciplined by Daddy for his mischievous behavior. That scene was absolutely heartwarming!

I know sibling rivalry is inevitable when you have more than one kid, due to personality clashes, ability battles, attention tactics, etc, but promoting sibling harmony and helping my children be friends with each other before they learn to fight with each other, is always on top of my list. Friends come and go, siblings are forever!!

formula milk, it does matters..

Rynus has turned one a few weeks back and the good news to us is, he can move on to Step/Stage 3 formula officially! Experienced parents understand that in order to encourage total breastfeeding, infant formula (1 to 6 months) is extremely expensive, and after 6 months, babies can take Step/Stage 2 formula which is slightly cheaper, and from 12 months onwards, till 36 months, they can be on Step/Stage 3 formula which is usually around 10 dollars cheaper than the Step/Stage 2 formula.

But the bad news is, within 2 weeks, we have spend almost 200 dollars on these:

As expected, Rynus is not taking his Dumex Mamil Gold Step 3 formula well. Why I said "expected"? First of all, Mummy Chan has this lactose intolerance problem and that's why I seldom drink milk. Then, his brother, Renzo had a tough time taking this same formula 3 years back. Both of them started with the Dumex infant formula, and moved on to Step 2 formula at 6 months, but Renzo was vomiting badly like a merlion when he started Step 3 around one year old. TCM doctor advised us to switch him to soy based formula, as he could potentially have problem digesting lactose, which is found in Dumex Step 3 formula as a form of added sugar. In fact it's common to find lactose in almost all brands of formulas, just that at that time, we were not sure about the root cause and resorted to change of milk powder in the end. We even informed childcare teachers not to give Renzo fresh milk for 2 years since we were afraid he is allergic to cow's protein. But we switched him from Soy based formula to GainIQ Stage 3 when he was about 18 months old, and since then he was all good. Now I think back, lactose could be found in GainIQ Stage 3 also, but maybe we dragged a little longer to switch him from Soy formula to GainIQ Stage 3, and during the period he's on Soy formula, somehow his digestive system improved and was able to take lactose since then.

So for Rynus, the moment I noticed that he was drinking extremely slow, vomiting occasionally and having loose stool when he's on Dumex Step 3, I made the call to start him on GainIQ Stage 3 immediately. And then, I didn't realize he's having problem with GainIQ till about 2 weeks later, when he has formed a routine to wake up for milk at 2am, then wake up crying at 3am, 4am, and wake up for milk again at 5am. Although he's not able to sleep through yet, his usual routine is to sleep before 930pm, have one feed at 330 to 430am, and sleep for another 1 or 2 hours at least from there. So I talked to my helper, her feedback is that since I switch him to GainIQ, Rynus has been more active during the day and refuses to take his nap most of the time.

Well I have heard feedback from some mummies that GainIQ is sweeter, and more heaty, and some kids (especially boys) get hyper active with this brand. Please do not quote me on this as I am not an expert, and I am speaking based on my own experience here. I do not know the exact impact of GainIQ on Renzo. He didn't sleep much during the day since he was a baby, so I can't say GainIQ made him more active. He fell sick a bit more often after taking GainIQ and grandparents usually relate that to heaty food he took, but he started preschool around that same period and it's so common for kids to fall sick easily. He had a bit of bad temper and threw tantrums often but I rather believe that's due to his Terrible Twos.

But looking at the reaction from Rynus, I have to believe that his behavior, to certain extend, has something to do with the formula he took. Because last night when I finally switched him back to Dumex Step 2, he slept soundly from 915pm to 4am this morning.

For the time being, I've decided to let him stick to Dumex Step 2 instead since the kind customer care representative from Dumex has advised me that some babies take longer time to gradually move on to Step 3. Although he needs s little more time to readjust again, well frequent change of formula definitely made him exhausted, it's so good to see his bright smile again this morning when he woke up!!

Disclaimer: I am not comparing formula milk here, I just want to record down the fact about certain formula brands which my boys couldn't take well.

the sullen-looking Rynus

Rynus has this interesting character/habit which we discovered since he was about 6-7 months old, that he seems to understand people's (or rather say our) instructions/feelings very well, and he reacts promptly to that.

A good example is, on many occasions, when he attempts to reach out on Daddy's computer table from his cot, and snatches Daddy's cellphone, once we shout, "No Rynus, no!!", immediately, he will pause, for many seconds, looks into our eyes, and slowly pulls his hand back without touching Daddy's phonef, but at the same time, gives us a super pathetic look as if he's done something extremely bad or wrong.

Recently, his reaction becomes even "cuter" when he's not able to get what he wants. If I say "No" softly to him, he leans his head on my chest immediately and peeps at me with an innocent look, as if he's checking on my permission before making another attempt. But if I say "No" firmly with a stare, he often juts his lower lip out in a pout, gives an aggrieved look with a big frown, and then, bursts into tears and whine.

How to be angry with this little cutie pie? I can't imagine how would he react if I were to scold him one day, or rather, how shall I react then?!!!

the first 2 steps..

Last night (May 20, 2013), while I was busy searching for Renzo's colored pencils, Daddy witnessed Rynus holding on his water bottle and WALKING TWO STEPS from his chair towards me! Our helper has told him that Rynus started walking one step recently but I am sure nothing beats catching that very moment of his son's first walk with his own eyes!! I didn't get to see that although I was just less than one meter away from Rynus, but I got to feel how excited Daddy was from all his (gentle) screaming and cheering!

As expected, Rynus started to flip, crawl, stand, and walk earlier than his elder brother. Yes Renzo was pretty... lazy I must say and preferred to be carried all the time when he was a baby. By now, I have learned not to compare my two boys though I know clearly what their differences are, in terms of their physical and mental development. All kids will learn at their own pace and master the necessary skills sooner or later.

It's true that Rynus baby is not able to repeat simple words like CAR, APPLE, BALL after us, not able to point out where is one particular object, not able to differentiate LION and SOCKS while playing flashcards, not able to lift up his index finger to tell us he's one year old,  and not able to "poke" his tummy when we ask where's Rynus baby.. All these are things Renzo could respond very well when he was at this age. And I checked through the list of Renzo's first 50 words at about 1 year 2 months old, I do not think Rynus can master those in another 2 months time, but, I am not concerned at all! He is uniquely adorable in his own way, in fact the frowning and tearing on his face when I shouted "OUCHHH" after he bit me on my arm, is the cutest expression I've ever seen! So I know for sure that he observes, feels and understands what's happening around him, all he needs is just time, to learn how to express himself.

In any case, the first 2 steps he took on his own, was definitely one of his biggest milestones achieved in the past few months!

Rynus the little food lover

What do you think our 11 months old could eat from my plate of food?
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EVERYTHING!!

Yes I know my answer will cause many mummies to raise their eyebrows, "no salt and no oil for babies below one years old" is the rule I followed strictly when Renzo was an infant, but for Rynus, maybe the 2nd child syndrome mindset kicked in, I am not that particular about what he eats in general, and I could feed Rynus with any kind of food we have on our dining table as long as it's safe for baby. And another reason why I love to feed him our food, is because this little man is super good at biting and chewing with his 6 tiny teeth, looking at the way he appreciates his food is something we enjoy doing the most.

So on one of the afternoons, when our helper was back to her hometown for one week holiday, I decided to bring Rynus out for a lunch date with mummy. I ordered grilled dory with rice and some steamed vegetables. Rynus was all excited in his baby chair even before the food arrived. He sits in high chair for food at home so he knows immediately that he's going to enjoy a feast the moment I put him into the baby chair at the restaurant. He finished 1/3 of the big dory with a little bit of rice and some broccoli and gave me his signature big sweet victory smile after that.

And there was once when he was nibbling on a whole piece of hotcake at McDonald's, one of the staff approached me and questioned if Rynus is 18 months old, LOL, well, he does looks like a toddler especially when he's eating on his own!

Of course Rynus gets to eat outside food once a while only, I cook his daily meals every morning as home cooked food is always more healthy and nutritious. Here's one of his favorite dishes: noodle with fish filet and baby spinach..

See how much he loves his dinner!!